In this generation-defining self-help guide, a superstar blogger cuts through the crap to show us how to stop trying to be "positive" all the time so that we can truly become better, happier people and handle adversity better.
What’s it about?
For years, we’ve been told to stay positive and how we’re destined for greatness. All those self-help books tell us the same thing -- “You’ve got greatness within you.”, “You are one step away from success”, “The key to success is staying positive.”.
Not anymore. In this book, Manson makes the argument that human beings are flawed and limited. Not everybody can be extraordinary. There are winners and losers in society, and some of it is not fair or your fault.
“The world is constantly telling you that the path to a better life is more, more, more—buy more, own more, make more, f*ck more, be more," says Manson, who advocates that people focus instead on figuring out what’s important for them.
There are so many things in life that we can give a f*ck about, so we need to figure out what really matters to us, and accordingly give our f*cks.
Unlike the other self-help books, The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck is very pragmatic in its approach. Manson is honest in his admission that the world is f*cked and we just have to live with it. The sooner we accept that, the better we can live our lives.
What I liked about the book?
Mark Manson’s style of writing is quite refreshing to read. Often, it feels like you’re having a conversation with him about how screwed up life is.
The book is also a much-needed slap in the face for people who have kept faith in their belief that everything will get better and we just have to stay positive all the time. It’s a wake-up call to everyone that we need to accept our limitations in order to lead more contented, grounded lives.
The stories in some of the chapters really drive home Manson’s point on accepting our limitations. They also make for an exciting read.
“The desire for more positive experience is itself a negative experience. And, paradoxically, the acceptance of one’s negative experience is itself a positive experience."
What did I not like about the book?
The Subtle Art of not giving a f*ck is a one of a kind book. It’s unconventional, and consequently has its fair share of critics who call the book overrated and impractical.
At times, Manson stresses too much on the same point making it feel like a drag.
In order to emphasize his point, Manson uses a certain word quite a lot, at times unnecessarily.
The self-help industry has been operating the same way for the last 40 odd years. Everybody’s saying the same thing, trying to make the reader feel positive and inspired, just in a different way. The disruption caused to the industry by this book was well overdue. The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck can be overhyped by people at times, but it deserves every bit of credit for being the perfect self-help book for today’s generation. Manson has a direct, take no prisoners approach, but also does enough to make it an entertaining read. A must-read book for 2020!
Rating - 9/10
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