How do FBI agents know whether someone’s telling the truth during an interrogation? How do we often understand our close ones without them saying anything? In this book, former FBI agent Joe Navarro shares his expertise on how we can read and understand people better!
What’s it about?
Joe Navarro is a former FBI counterintelligence officer and a recognized expert on nonverbal behaviour. In this book, he teaches readers on how we can “speed-read” people. He shows us how to decode sentiments, avoid hidden pitfalls and spot deceptive behaviour.
Joe Navarro highlights some key features that the human mind is conditioned to express in specific situations. For example, he shares some bodily behaviours that one might engage in when one feels threatened, uncomfortable, stressed, nervous, etc. He also guides his readers through some of his cases as an example for how these non-verbal cues can be useful.
You'll also learn how your body language can influence what your boss, family, friends, and strangers think of you.
This book is not only suitable for people who like psychology and understanding people, but also for people who are curious about the human body’s tendency to perform in certain ways and decrypting those cues more efficiently.
Safe to say this is also a great book for those people who love watching crime shows like Criminal Minds and Hawaii Five-0!
What I liked about the book?
Throughout the book, Navarro uses simple language to convey his messages and in instances where a jargon must be used, he clearly defines it. This makes it easy for the reader to understand these concepts without any background knowledge in behavioural science.
Another interesting part about the book was how he addresses the gender specific behaviours. For example, men and women behave differently when under stress. Not only does he explain these behavioural concepts, he also highlights how to differentiate such behaviour from normal behaviour and how intensity can be a key factor.
His use of anecdotes work as a perfect credibility check and helps readers gauge the information much better. The use of pictures to highlight certain behaviours also deserve special praise!
“The problem is that most people spend their lives looking but not truly seeing, or, as Sherlock Holmes, the meticulous English detective, declared to his partner, Dr. Watson, “You see, but you do not observe.”
What did I not like about the book?
Even though the case examples were helpful, the book started to feel like a memoir of the work Joe Navarro has successfully done with the FBI. Towards the end, it started to feel more narrative than informative.
A lot of the information in the book is something you already know and is just brought to awareness.
Often, Navarro got too deep into the events of his cases rather than the point he was trying to make.
Even though the book claims to be a guide on speed-reading people, the book only skims through the non-verbal cues. A lot of the non-verbal cues can have more than one meaning but Navarro avoids talking about how to differentiate between them.
“What Everybody is Saying” is a great book to introduce readers to behavioural science. While it wouldn’t be a great book for regular readers of this subject, it’s a simple, easy to understand book to help you notice certain behaviours around you that you would not usually notice.
Rating - 6/10
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Thank you for reading my review. Hope you enjoy the book!